Is Your Femininity Linked To Your Body Image?

80% of women judge their beautiful body!

A recent study states that 1 in 10 teenage girls has “extreme levels of fear” about gaining weight. Personally, I think that number is higher.

A study done by the University of Bristol examining 7,000 children found that during a 3 month period 26% of girls restricted their food intake by fasting, avoiding meals, or throwing away food. On top of that, 53% of girls had avoided fatty foods for fear of putting on a few extra pounds.

Do you wake up in the morning and begin the litany of judgment?

Too fat.  Too much cellulite.  Too ugly.  Too many blemishes.  Not good enough.  Not fit enough.  Too frizzy of hair.  Flat chested.  Scars.  Saggy butt. Acne.

Need I say more…?

I can relate being a former fitness competitor and personal trainer… I lived in the gym 3 hours/day 6-7 days/week. I was a slave to my diet and punished myself if I ate anything “unhealthy.” My body was 3-5% body fat and looked perfect from the outside; everyone envied my body. Yet, I wasn’t happy. My body wasn’t perfect enough. If you could have lived inside my mind and heard my daily thoughts, you would’ve wanted to escape as fast as you can.

Today, I work out approximately 3-4 days/week at 45 minutes max and love what I see looking back at me in the mirror.

What changed?

My connection to my femininity.

Both men and women have feminine and masculine energy within them, it is a choice to function from one or the other.

Masculine traits include: logical, analytical, disciplined, confident, driven, focused, directive, competition, straightforward and goal-oriented. Think the hustle and bustle of New York City where everyone is wearing suits, carrying briefcases, and in a hurry to get somewhere to get something done.

Feminine traits include: surrender, receptive, intuitive, radiant, flowing, emotional, sensitive, nurturing, affectionate, patience, and loving. Think the peace and calm of Hawaii where everyone is laidback, smelling the roses, and have all the time in the world to get whatever done that they need to get done.

In today’s society, the masculine is perceived as being productive and successful, therefore more and more women are becoming masculine in their day-to-day lives. This began with the feminine right’s movement when women demanded equal rights. In order to be equal to the masculine, women had to give up the value of being feminine. In doing so, they’ve stepped into the alpha roles of society to climb corporate’s ladder and put their feminine essence on the backburner.

What did this create in their lives?

  • Unhappiness

  • Dissatisfaction

  • Increased stress

  • Feelings of having to do it all

  • Feelings of lack

  • Feelings of never being good enough

    And most of all…


When you disconnect from your femininity, you disconnect from your body. Your relationship to your body is equivalent to your relationship with the feminine energy. When you are connected to your feminine energy, you are connected to the nurturing, loving side of you. When you are connected to the nurturing, loving side of you, it’s hard to judge your body.

If we look back over history, our female predecessors were connected to their feminine energy and didn’t judge their body. They were connected to their inner wisdom as well as mother earth’s wisdom.

As we’ve become more and more masculine with the need to compete to be equal in a masculine-dominant society, we’ve disconnected from the wisdom of nature.

The wisdom of nature is the same wisdom of YOU.

When you connect daily with nature, you can choose to embody the energy of nature:  no judgment, simultaneous gifting and receiving without obligation, spacious, radiant, beautiful, ever-flowing, sensual, and sexual.

Let me ask you this: when you go out into nature, does nature judge you? Do the plants, trees, and animals judge that you have too much cellulite, acne, or are having a bad hair day?

Not at all.

So let me challenge you… can you be to you what nature is to you?

Here are 5 steps you can incorporate on a daily basis to connect to your feminine energy, and ultimately, stop judging your beautiful body:

  1. Trust your intuition/gut/inner wisdom

  2. Take 1 hour/day to nurture your body

  3. Stop and smell the roses… and breathe

  4. Connect with Mother Earth by taking a walk or sunbathing for a few minutes each day

  5. Wake up every morning and caress your body before getting out of bed

And most importantly, start expressing gratitude for the small things about your body.